Tesar-Reynes

Eye contact, like the handshake, is absolutely essential to all physical communications, particularly interviews. In my rating system, you can lose just as many points by not looking at me as by having a fishy handshake.

When someone looks at me when I talk to them I feel that they are processing what I am saying. They’re trying to be committed to understanding what I’m talking about. I can also extrapolate that this person will treat other people in a like manner. Also, when someone silently looks me in the eye while I am talking, they are not talking back or interrupting. I feel that most of the processing is going to listening, and not a rebuttal or trying to act smart.

I lose interest when someone is talking to me, and they look beyond me or look into outer space. The answers to my question are not written on the wall behind me nor are they available in skywriting outside the window. I feel it is the responsibility of the talker to gauge my face and eyes. They should register with me on what they are trying to communicate. I also wonder if this habit of looking into space is what they’ll do in a business environment. If this is so, they’ll certainly be marginalized.